Monday Chat-Up - Secrets to Having a Spectacular Marriage

Hello PAI readers! Yes, I am begining to address my distinguished readers as PAI, which stands for P-resh, A-vtadak, I-nspires readers! How many of us like the name ? If you have any name idea, kindly sound off on our comment box below o , cos we still subject to change for any sexy name. 

My last two weeks has been so tedious that I even broke the promise of never to miss any monday chat-up. Please, kindly accept my utmost apology. 

Last weekend was just rest, rest, rest, and I was so glad I spent it in such way despite being a Valentine outing weekend.... Even at that sef, how do one get to spend it with this kin distance affair...Kems, there is God sha... So, how did you spend your Valentine Day? Trust you did not engage in an act that you are presently regretting due to intoxication of childish act!!!!! 

On todays Chat Up, we will be talking about secrets of having a spectacular marriage/relationship. 

The rate at which marriages are failing is quite alarming and frightening! This leaves those of us single to begin to wonder, If marriage is really a blessing or otherwise! However, I want to believe marriage is really a blessing but our dedication, attitude and hard work towards it will lead to its turnout. #QuoteOfTheDay - Great marriages are the result of hours of hard work!

Looking into the lives of happy couples,
one will find out how the love moves I discovered through my Web MD reading on the subject issue and interactions with married aunties, uncles and friends bring couple closer than ever.


I found out what couples who describe their marriages as spectacular do things extraordinarily than those who describe their marriages as simply so-so.... The differences are quite small, actually but in Its effect, it pays out massively !So, why not take the step and share the testimony of new fresh air of breath in your relationship...

1st Point

Understand Each Other's Needs

I found out through my research and reading that the main reason marriages break up is not conflict, communication problems, or sexual incompatibility,, rather it's frustration !  The day-to-day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts cost a lot of damage to your home .

Solution - He/She is not spirit and as such will not know what you expect of him/her biko. To settle off this frustration, share your expectations with each other. Maybe you desire more affection and he craves more relaxed couple time.
#LetsNote, always be ready to check in with your partner twice a year, as added pressures or life changes and can create new expectations from him/her.

2nd Point

Show Him Some Love

We women are always at the receiving end of affections and most times, most females do not think that the male counterpart also need love and affection from their partners.
Husbands whose wives give them affirmation - those words and gestures that show they are appreciated, respected, and loved are twice as likely to describe themselves as happily married.

Women are constantly receiving flattery from friends and even strangers who say, 'Love your outfit' and you hear us chorus 'Thank you'. Hey, but men don't get that recognition often like we do...
Hold on oh female folk, can you imagine a passerby stopping your husband to compliment him on how well his tie matches his shirt? Hahahhahaha Not gonna happen - which is why men rely on that attention from their wives. Luckily, there's another payoff to your flattery: He's more likely to return those loving deeds back to you,i bet you.
I think we ought to make it gender balance...Yes, am a gender equality advocate lol!!!

Point 3

Take 10
This works wonders for couples who practice it as I have observed and read as well! A weekly date night is always recommended as a way to reconnect with your spouse, but sometimes all you need is a few minutes.
According to Orbuch a relationship consultant , it's  called the '10-Minute Rule' .... Take 10 minutes a day to talk about anything except for kids, responsibilities, or chores.
Studies shows thats 98 percent of happy couples say they intimately understand their partners but wait o, knowing your spouse intimately isn't always about engaging in heavy conversations. At times anything that helps you learn something new will bring you both closer. You can bond over why you think your decision to marry him is the smartest one .... You'll get to know each other's inner world and strengthen your bond of happiness as you practice this '10-Minute Rule'

Point 4

Focus on the Good
The best way to make your relationship better is to work at fixing what's wrong, right? Nope. The most effective way to boost fun and passion is to add positive elements to your marriage. The positive energy makes us feel good and motivates us to keep going in that direction. This doesn't mean that you can't feel or talk about  anything negative, but "pretend you are weighing your interactions on a scale by sieving the good points alone. Hmmmm, sounds difficult to some people...LOL ...Just give it a trial people..


I will say, If you want a happier relationship, the positive side needs to far outweigh the bad! The more you honor the love and joy in your bond, the sooner you'll transform your marriage into one that is truly great!
In all. I will say marriage is good depending on how much you dedicate into it my friends! Like seriously, can't wait for #Keme sha to start enjoying the fruits of marriage...


Digest this few as we look forward to blog more on this issue!

Until next week, when I come your way, #StayLoved #KeepLoving




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